I Just Want to Be Left Alone

When I was younger I considered myself an extrovert as I was fueled by contact with people. I liked to stay busy and hang out with my friends. I couldn’t wait to go somewhere and see someone. Now that I am an adult, being busy and seeing people feels very different. Even though I enjoy my life and am extremely fulfilled through my responsibilities, I find myself longing for quiet and alone time. For an extrovert, this is very new to me. I am sure many of you can relate.

I never thought I would say this, but as I have grown older, my hunger for interaction can sometimes grow into a great desire for isolation. I have actually hid in my closet before and I really liked it!!  I am not talking about simply being needing a break or an hour or two by myself, but this temptation to get away and disconnect from life. Is it just me?

You know, sometimes in our weariness we can trick ourselves into believing that we are better off alone. We believe the lie, that sharing our pain won’t help or that it is too much of a burden. We believe we couldn’t possibly have any more fun than we do alone. We believe the lie that we were built for independence and self-sufficiency. Forget love…all I need is Netflix. We try to avoid the very thing we need: healthy relationships and all of the mess that comes along with them.

Who can blame us sometimes, but the truth remains, we are sheep, designed to thrive in a herd of other sheep. Sheep are not made to survive alone but to rely on each other for warmth, food, and protection from predators. Our safety is in being “with” not “apart”. Our needs are met within our herd, our family.


Ecclesiastes 4:9,12 says, Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.

This is a practical truth I often remind myself of; two are better than one. Did you know you were never meant to do life alone?

Unknown-13Please, stay connected to your people and nourish those relationships, you may be pivotal in helping someone. I have lived long enough to know, there are most certainly a few falls ahead and you are too important to fall alone.

Rebecca lives in Cary with her husband and 4 children. She and her husband are from Mississippi and lived in Wisconsin for 7 years before calling the Triangle home. They are the founding pastors of Bright Chapel and are passionate about equipping, loving and encouraging believers to grow towards spiritual maturity. She loves being surrounded by friends and laughter.If you were to drop in on her you would most likely find her doing laundry.